In this publication we review the outstanding book:
Why Women Should Rule the World by Dee Dee Myers.
Here are some highlights and excerpts.
Numerous research studies over the past decade have strongly suggested that “the world would be different, and better” if women were in charge. There would be less wars and global conflicts, and more global, caring, compassion, and nurturing. Also it is claimed that there have been a genderization (maleness) in science, politics, economics, and in most fields. This is not a good thing, and in fact this has led us to our current imbalanced and inadequate state of the world.
Carol Gilligan, in her excellent book “Mapping the Moral Domain – A contribution of women’s thinking to Psychological thinking, and education” has made some very interested findings.
She found that women focus on: justice and care. These are fundamental coordinates for advanced stages of human development. She further found that boys’ dilemmas involved friends and peer pressure issues, while girls’ dilemmas focused on loyalty issues.
It is generally agreed that the feminine personality seems to define itself in relations and connection to other people more than the masculine personality does.
She talks about the current cultural script for mothering that asks the mother to “give up” herself or sacrifice care of the child in order to develop the self.
In medicine, males tended to be more isolated from patients, while female doctors were more connected. Keller notes that if more women were to engage in science, a different science might emerge.
She claims that both scientists and the public, scientific thought is male thought. When we “dub” the objective science “hard” as opposed to the softer i.e. more subjective branches of knowledge, we implicitly invoke a sexual metaphor, in which “hard” is of course masculine and the soft as slightly feminine.
Is science largely the creation and dominance of a particular psychological type of style and thinking, the projective of a particular psyche into the world? And if so, are alternative forms of science and policies based on “feminine” styles of thinking possible? We believe the answer to the proceeding question is “yes”.
A recent marketing report, Marketing to women January 2008 issue, confirmed that,
- On a scale of 1 to 5, women rank spirituality as a higher priority than work, socializing and
- 75% say spirituality is important in daily life.
- 7% of moms turn to prayer for spiritual guidance.
- 8% turn to other moms or friends.
- 7% are actively seeking ways to integrate spirituality into family life.
- Moms say family spirituality is part of their job description. 61.9% say they are more likely
than their partner to bring spirituality into the home.
In future publications these unique “feminine” thinking styles, differences, attributes, abilities,
and approaches to problem solving and conflict resolution will be examined.
Here are a few highlights of this excellent must read book by Dee Dee Myers:
- If women were in charge, things might actually change. Instead of posturing, we’d have co-operation. Instead of gridlock we’d have progress. Instead of a shouting match, we’d have a conversation.
- Research shows that women are likely to accept salary offers, no questions asked. Carnegie Mellon University found that the men negotiated their initial salary a staggering eight times more often than the women. They’re socialized not to. “Society really teaches young girls, from the day they are born, to think about the needs of others and not to think about their own needs. So they grow up not thinking about themselves or how to get what they want.
- According to a recent study by Catalyst, both men and women perceive women as better at “care-
taking skills,” like team building and encouraging others, while men are perceived as better at “taking charge” skills, like influencing superiors, solving problems, and making decisions. According to a recent study by Catalyst, Fortune 500 companies with the highest representation of women on their boards performed better financially – significantly better. When compared to companies with the fewest women in the boardroom. Not only are women a wise investment, they are also wise investors.
- Women aren’t just changing the marketplace; they’re also changing politics. Women are
more likely to introduce and support legislation benefiting women, children, and families.
Women are more likely than their male counterparts to initiate and fight for bills that champion social
justice, protect the environment, advocate for families, and promote nonviolent conflict resolution.
When women control the family funds, they generally spend more on health, nutrition, and education – and less on alcohol and cigarettes. Children become – for virtually every woman – the pillar around which the rest of her life is built. Virtually every decision they make will start with the question, “how will it affect my children?”
Women are symbols of moderation. For the most part, women are not “the planners or
- Boys are more competitive – according to one study, an astonishing fifty times more competitive – as they seek to climb to the top of the pecking order. Girls, by contrast, are more cooperative, and their games often center around nurturing. They’re much more likely to seek consensus and be more concerned with fairness, rather than competition. The relationship – not winning – is the goal.
- Â Men and women also experience relationships differently. According to studies, men’s self-esteem derives more from their ability to maintain independence from others while women’s self-esteem is maintained, in part, by the ability to sustain intimate relationships. Males get together as a means to an end; females make friends.
- Men and women manage stress in remarkably different ways. When men are stressed, they get in someone’s face – or retreat into their proverbial caves. They found that women were more likely to respond to stress in their own way: by hanging out with their kids or family member, a pattern of behavior which they called “tend and befriend”.
- Building Bridges: Women are becoming key players in peace processes. They have proved instrumental in building bridges rather than walls, says Kofi Annan, former secretary general of the United Nations. Bolivia, and Malaysia and concluded that when women had more control over spending, they spent less on the military. Harvard psychologist Rose McDerinott found that the more money a country spends on its military, the more likely it is to go to. In other words, more women in government mean fewer wars. Women think long and hard before they send their children out to kill other people’s children. Men are stubborn.Women are more comfortable seeking compromise. They see it as a strength, not a weakness. As women gain power, they help foster democracy.Males get together as a means to an end; females make friends.A political scientist at The University of California, Berkeley, argues that democracy is exceedingly rare in countries where there is a large gap in the literacy rates of men and women – and
where there are substantially more men than women the more men, the more crime and the more violence. Men are the primary perpetrators of murder, mayhem, and other assorted destructive acts. The patterns are remarkably consistent across time and culture.”
- Women are slightly more likely to be “transformational” leaders, collectively settling goals and empowering their teams to achieve them. And men are more likely to be “transactional” leaders; letting subordinates know what is expected, rewarding them for their successes and hold them accountable for their failures. So not only do women have a somewhat different style; it’s more likely to be successful. Women’s greatest contribution to our changing world may be their insistence upon breaking the mold rather than just fitting in.” So we need a different set of
relations -driven skills.” They are consensus builders. They are innovative and creative thinkers
- When you don’t care who gets credit, it’s easier to work together. I’ve found that a lot of women are uncomfortable with power, at least as traditionally defined. They like moral influence. They know any of the great social justice movements emerged and grew up out of a sense of shared community.” Motherhood does build a broad range of valuable skills. Moms learn to anticipate needs. They learn tough decision making. They learn diplomacy and direction. They also learn sacrifice, time management, multitasking, hard work, long hours, flexibility, and team
building. Who wouldn’t want leaders who had honed these skills in the tough crucible of real life?
- A recent study of corporate boards found it takes three women to really change the dynamic in the board room. Women bring a “collaborative dynamic” that increases the amount of listening, social support, and win-win problem solving. They take on different issues, as tough questions, and demand direct and detailed answers. And they bring different ideas and perspectives to the table, broadening the content of board discussions.
Consider purchasing Why Women Should Rule the World by Dee Dee Myers
-By Dr. Ranjie Singh